I see this ALL the time from kids to adults. Unfortunately porn isn’t going anywhere…so…
You owe it to yourself to get proper sex education that will serve not only you but if you are partnered (to your partner). Think about all the myths we generally come to the table with about what sex should look like, sound like, smell like… the list goes on. When sex doesn’t meet your expectations the disappointment sets in and can have an impact on your sexual intelligence as well as your partner’s self esteem.
So, to start some awareness around this topic- ask yourself these questions:
What do I like about my body (while looking at it naked in a mirror).
What do you notice about your sexual feelings? Do you desire sex, ling for sex, to be touched, licked, kissed, etc
How do you like to be touched? How aware are you about how you liek to be touched? Do you touch yourself that way?
Do you believe sex us about what bodies do or more about how people feel? (the second one being the correct answer)
Sex involves a number of activities- Do you know which ones you like?
Other things you can do to minimize the impact of porn on sexuality is read a book (I said that with an attitude because I believe we are living in a world where too many people just scroll social media and their brains are going in the SHITTER!). Seriously, books like Sexual Intelligence by Marty Klein, Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Great Sex by Mike Castleman, mating in Captivity by Esther Perel to name a few. Read and educate yourself on this topic.
You can also learn to break out of your comfort zone and try new things, explore your body, your partner’s body, your belief systems (you may need a therapist to help with this)!
And of course, limit or stop watching porn so much. Read an erotic novel. Or hey, here’s a bright idea… Get creative and cultivate some exciting situations with your partner… (did I hear the doorbell ring? OH My must be the pizza guy let me take my clothes off now). Creativity is worth its weight in gold in the realm of sex. Play around with your thoughts and fantasies and come up with some great novel ideas!
Best to you!