These are tough times for many. It is fascinating over the last several months (in the age of COVID) how some relationships are flourishing and others are in serious danger of failing. Now more than ever is the time for maintenance for both self and relationships.
Bottom line: you have to be healthy to be in a healthy relationship. So, now more than every it is important to care for yourself. Ask yourself: What am I doing for myself that is helping me feel good and grow? Growth is imperative for happiness as it is not a need of the ego, it is a need of the spirit. If you are not growing you are…. Dying (in theory).
These are some things to try:
Grounding. Go out in nature, take a walk, connect with your surroundings, breath in fresh air and collect your thoughts and energy.
Take 30 minutes a day for just you. In that 30 minutes do something that makes you feel good, be it exercise, your favorite television show, talking to a friend that makes you laugh.
Everyday do something that inspires you. Inspiration raises vibrational frequencies of happiness.
This is the energy you can learn to bring into your relationship instead of stale negative energy.
When it comes to your relationship, imagine each of you knowing each other’s top two needs- to be happy in a relationship. If you do not know these then ask your partner.
Actively meet these needs (as best as you can, this is not about perfection). Imagine if both of you are putting that effort into the relationship. When couples are conscious of meeting each other’s needs both parties feel wanted, energized, and cared for. This is part of what s called “conscious love” and now more than ever we need to be consciously loving our partners (and ourselves).
Start with you. Follow the guidance above. Then figure out or remind each other what your top two needs are in a relationship and actively work on those for your partner. This is “relationship mindfulness” and it is necessary for a vibrant relationship.
Remember, nothing grows without care, not you, not your relationship(s).
*Active Love versus Passive Love (Think about this phrase).